Hi,this is about my mom?she has multiple myeloma and its is now 3yrs later and to me my mom is starting to forget thing and say thing like that she talk to her dad when her dad has pass, i talk to her doc. and say to him is she geting better and he said that her blood work look good.well what i want to know is what do i do or is it geting to that time..he said that the myeloma was a 4 but that was almost 3yrs ago i dont know to must about myeloma so what can i do for my mom and me i dont want her to go or think that the time is here but i guess in a way i want to know can people live with that for a long tome or what? i just need help i guess but i dont know were to go or how to deal with all of this,to look at her and just to see how the cancer is taking her what do i do.....
Answer by ashley42066
you just have to be there for her and give her a will to live, and want to fight this.. no 4 years is unusual life span.. with that cancer, usually it goes pretty fast.. so maybe her will is strong, just be there for her and help her and love her most importantly, thats really allyou can do, im sorry, i will pray for her.
Answer by sam
Is there a cancer treatment center of America in your area. They claim to deal with not the cancer, but the patient and the family. Try and find one. they may be able to give you some advice that would be helpful to your particular situation. (Lost my mom to cancer 3 years ago. Hang in there!)
Answer by hah
I am so sorry, what a horrible thing for you to have to deal with. Maybe you should talk to your dad if he is around or someone else that might be able to tell you some more specific details about just where she is at with the cancer and how long she has left....just like you said and what signs you might need to look for.
I am not trying to upset you but if she is acting in an odd way that does not seem normal for her it may be in her brain by now and that would translate, in most cases to several more months. It is in no way a blessing but she may get to a point where she no longer really is aware of much, and the brain controls all functions so they will shut down...she has lived for a long time with it, I think you need to get more info from the doctor, asking specific questions is the best way to get specific answers...my heart goes out to you, this can't be much fun.
I was wondering how old you were...if dad is around, if you have any brothers or sisters...
try not to be too sad, I am sure she wouldn't want you to be. If it comes to it there are agencies, like hospice that will come in and help...good luck to and god bless
Answer by miss_knee_jerk_reaction
The best thing, and only REAL thing you can do for is and for you is be there with her. Spend time with her. Remember with her, talk with her about her father. Take things one day at a time. I've found that honesty with her regarding her condition will help her with 'her' grieving process...There are specific steps she will make coming to terms with her mortality. As will you. There is no RIGHT or WRONG way of dong this, be patient with yourself, and simply do your best. I enjoyed watching movies with my mother, or listening to music. She would react to music even when asleep...tapping her feet to a favorite song. Candles, nice calming scents...they were all helpful. She also enjoyed hand and foot massages. If you need help caring for her at home, there are agencies that have PSW workers to watch over her and assist her while you run errands or if you need a break. Her heath insurance should carry the cost. Ask her doctor about this, he/she will know whom to contact. Talk about how you're feeling with your friends and family and don't be too proud to ask for help. It's the hardest job in the world caring for someone you love while they are sick. It can also be very rewarding and you'll be amazed at how strong an individual you really are.
Answer by Ryans Mom
Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. It is such a hard time for you, I'm sure. My dad had it too but I was just wondering one thing. Have the doctors recently changed or increased any of her medications? I ask this because when my dad had flares with his MM his pain meds would be increased and he'd get confused because of it. When his pain meds were decreased, he'd return more to normal. Different doctors had different opinions on his pain medications--the combinations, the med strengths, etc. so you may want to ask the doctor if you're unsure. I wish you both luck and my thoughts and prayers are with you both.
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